How Faith Helps In Your Relationships

Faith is the lifeblood of relationships.

The choice to trust in and rely on each other is foundational to intimacy. You must be willing to risk exercising faith if you are going to learn and grow. The goal in relationships is to expand your experience of yourself as well as other people.  Move into the unknown and away from the familiar in order to experience more joy and aliveness in your relationships.

If in relationships, your goal, consciously or unconsciously, is to avoid getting hurt, then you will not succeed in fostering intimacy. Intimacy is grown in the crucible of life and involves missteps, hurts, and misunderstandings. Relationships are messy and challenging if both are willing to go for meaningful connection and satisfaction.

You must learn how to fight (ok, exercise productive conflict resolution skills). When you first learn to fight, you start out reacting against what you don’t like, want, or agree with. As you mature emotionally, you begin asserting your will and pursuing what you want.

This is how faith helps because you must exercise trust to move into the unknown and risk being hurt along the path to intimacy.

Your relationship with God or your Higher Power parallels your relationships with others. I do not believe your relationship with God can be better than your relationships with your spouse, children or friends. You are who you are with whomever you are relating. Faith gives you both the hope and the courage to pursue the intimacy and joy you long for.

Trust and pursue what you yearn for by faith!

Rich Blue, M.A., LCPC, IBCC, NCC, CLE’s Founder and Clinical Director, is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor with over 25 years of experience. Rich first placed his faith in Jesus Christ in 1972. He joined the staff of Campus Crusade for Christ where he served for seven years and later became Campus Director at Northwestern University. It was through this ministry that Rich first discovered his love for counseling. Known for his insight, compassion and a no-nonsense approach to therapy, Rich believes that Christ has an infinite love for all and each of us can be a vehicle for his love. As an avid athlete, he believes in competition, which brings joy and aliveness as the result of living life with dedication, purpose, and passion.